Relationships don’t always last. Couples drift apart, situations change or, one of them can just be a complete knob. I get this.
What I don’t get is how I am supposed to cope when I dearly love both those people who don’t love each other any more!
Yes, I know it’s heartbreaking for them, an awful difficult time, but it’s also a really hard time for me!
These are your mates. Your pals. You are a foursome. And when that changes, things can become really shitty!
Suddenly, there’s negotiating. There’s a BBQ on the weekend, we want to invite Bob, but will Susan be upset he’s there? Can we invite them both? We’d love to ask 5 year old Johnny round to play, but who’s he with this weekend? Will Susan think it’s weird I’m popping over to Bob’s place to make sure he’s ok?
Sheesh, it’s a political minefield – and these are your friends!!
And that, is what makes it all so hard. If one of them isn’t a knob & you still love them both the same, things can get really tricky.
These two, once loving, inseparable friends who joined you for a mid week takeaway with the kids after netball training, invited you over for Friday night drinks & came on family holidays camping, now just don’t want to do that with each other, they don’t want to do that with you either anymore!
They might not be a couple anymore, but you’re not a foursome anymore either. And you still love them both the same. Wah! The injustice of it all.
And while Bob & Susan need time to re-group, re-settle & move on, so do you. You need to find out how this new friendship is going to work.
I’m guessing that honesty is the best policy & letting them know that you don’t want to make things difficult for them is the best way to go.
Have you dealt with a couple on couple break up? How did you handle it?
P.S. – a big sorry to Bob & Susan for using your sad story as my own. I love you both very much……. sob!