I wrote this post a little while ago while thinking about how passionate people can become online. How involved they get in other people’s battles. The more thought I put into it the more I realised the need to belong, to be part of a group where you feel special & understood.
Then the whole Trump election thing happened. I am still shaking my head over the whole fiasco. Then I started relating it to the online belonging thing. What if all those people who voted for & support Trump don’t feel like they belong. Maybe they saw Trump as a way to belong in their own country?
I think wanting to belong is something everyone craves.
Feeling like you are surrounded by like minded people gives you stability, protection, strength. It brings you happiness & support.
The wonderful wide world of the internet has made that feeling even easier to obtain. It’s easy to find online friends in groups & blogs which make you feel like part of the family. It’s what bloggers strive for in their writing, to create a tribe, a place where they can express their feelings & others can relate.
I wish that I’d had Facebook & Instagram, blogs I loved & Facebook back when I was living in the country with my first baby. Hell, I didn’t even have a phone that took photos back then, but imagine the friendships I could have formed, the advice I could have found, the stories I would have related to if I’d had access to all that when I felt so totally alone & isolated.
It’s what we’re all looking for in real life too, it’s just that it’s sometimes harder to do in the real world.
It’s easy to dismiss those who have found their “tribe” as being fervent. I have a friend who recently became involved in a new business that she’s totally passionate about. She raves about the community, the connections, the difference it will make. I’m super stoked for her, she’s belonging. She’s found a tribe. And I should add, it’s another of her tribes. You don’t need to have just one!
You’re tribe might be your neighbours, your book club, your yoga mates, it doesn’t matter who they are or how you found them, it’s how you connect with them that makes it matter.
I am lucky enough now to have a few different tribes, who although they all give me different things, they all give me that sense of belonging.
My school friends, two gals I’d happily lay down on a railway track for. We have known each other for so long now, our history is our belonging.
My female friends, my WAGS. We can go without seeing each other for weeks & slip right back into where we left off, they get me.
My school Mums. We’ve developed friendships through our children & our bonds have grown over the years as we’ve got to know each other more & more. I rely on these ladies more than I’d care to admit.
My Perth Posse. When I started blogging I met these girls & our belonging is our love of blogging. Something our other tribes don’t understand quite like this one does!
Having different tribes means you can achieve that feeling of belonging whenever you need it. The right tribe at the right time.
And belonging doesn’t mean you have to be a bitch. No one likes or wants to be a mean girl. There’s room for everyone. Fingers crossed Trump feels the same way as me!
Have you found a place where you belong? Be it a group of people or a special place?